Sunday, March 15, 2020

Why Your Life is Busy

Why Your Life is Busy

Why Your Life is Busy


Every day, thousands of people visit this minimalist lifestyle blog and the vast majority of my readers have one thing in common: they are tired of living busy and cluttered lives.

They are tired of feeling exhausted at the end of the day, tired of feeling overwhelmed by the volume of stuff in their homes, and tired of never having enough time to do the things that make them come alive.

They come here looking for ideas that will help them declutter, help them slow down, and help them live with more intention in their everyday lives.

It’s akin to a doctor trying to treat a patient’s symptoms without knowing the real cause, don’t you think?

I actually took time last night to reflect on these questions for myself—why had my life been so busy and cluttered in the past, and where does the busyness is my life currently come from—and I had some pretty big revelations.

I thought I’d share them here with you with the hope that it encourages you to take a deeper look inwards. If you are tired of being tired, keep reading to find out why your life is busy and cluttered, and what to do about it.

BETTER BUSY THAN LONLEY

When I was in my late teens and early 20’s, I worked a lot more than your average person. There are a few reasons for this.

In addition, I was a shopaholic. You can read a bit more about my journey in this post and this one too, but the short story is a shopped a lot so I obviously needed to work a lot to pay for it all.

I remember at one stage, in my early twenties, when I realized that I hadn’t had a weekend off from work in over a year. I regularly worked double shifts, easily pushing myself to work 60-70 hours a week, all the while going to school full-time too.

I was busy and I told myself that I didn’t have an option. I said yes to every shift that was offered to me because I “needed the money” and besides—I wasn’t the type of person to say no to work. (I didn’t really need the money, I needed to stop spending so much, but that’s not the point of this story.)

The real truth—one that I struggled to admit to myself at the time— is that I had very few friends. There was no one to meet for coffee, no one to go dancing with on Saturday nights, no one to study with for my exams.

It was easier to work every weekend and to applaud myself for being such a hard worker than to deal with the discomfort of sitting home alone on a Saturday night.

Or worse—the discomfort of putting myself out there and starting a conversation with a stranger

FINAL THOUGHTS

Over the years, my life has evolved and my vision has changed. I got married again and we have a young daughter, and my deep desire to be present in their lives drives me now.

Physical clutter is no longer the struggle it once was, but I still need to be mindful of the busyness in my life. I’m doing this by challenging some deeply held beliefs about hard work, self-worth, and money.

Once you have a clear vision of the life you want most, it’s like a guiding light in the darkness, helping you find the courage you need to walk forward with confidence.

Have you chosen busy and cluttered as a way of staying comfortable? Let me know your thoughts in the comments and as always, thank you for reading!

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